The Worst Parts Of Fighting

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1. Too many reminders of how much you love them.

Which only follows into how much it hurts. If you fought over WhatsApp, you’re GOING TO find his pictures on your phone, her emails, mom’s presents, friend’s book. It is almost programmed into us to run into the people and the worlds of the people whom we are hurting with, almost like that’s driving our subconscious!

2. You’ll want hugs. From them.

And it will feel extremely silly to ask for it. Especially if one of you has gone away to clear their head.

3. It always happens around exam time.

In India it’s ALWAYS exam time so this one is pretty much guaranteed.

4. You will question a good memory.

That’s the part where you’re going to hurt yourself more than anything the other person in the fight could have said. This is your cue to go to sleep. Stop thinking, or you’ll end up with a brain warped on itself, feeling even more miserable and your reason will be so far lost that you’ll find no problem with headbanging a pan.

5. It eventually becomes simpler and easier, but you don’t know how much is ‘eventually’.

Everything is awkward and strange meanwhile. Especially talking. You don’t really want everybody to know you’re low but you can’t be bothered to make an effort and sound cheerful. Not while you’re swirling in cold hell.

6.You indulge.

I am a really good money saver so at most times, I have a stash of money for a good treat. Come hurtful fight, I will dole out thousands on food- creamy pastas and cold drinks and crisp potatoes and fried foods. Nothing available in my house will please me. So I’ll also spend money traveling halfway into Delhi to Connaught Place and back.

7. You know this isn’t permanent, and that you want that person back.

So it’s confusing- do you want to forget all about it and make amends? Make sure the other person isn’t hurting? But that can be bad for relationships, so should you feel this through?

There’s no mind-blowing conclusion to this post (much like its beginning). I only wish that whoever feels like that at any time be blessed with soft pillows and heavy fatigue. Grief can be really exhausting so it’s pretty appropriate to sleep it off.


6 thoughts on “The Worst Parts Of Fighting

    A.Goel said:
    March 9, 2015 at 12:48 PM

    you know what is worse than fighting.. not being able to fight! Yes. sometimes you just can’t or won’t be able to say your bit..not necessarily in a “fighting” way.. Most people have “unsaid” things : things that they want(ed) to say but could not (or cannot) for fear of more fights (!) , misunderstanding etc.
    that’s the real challenge.. to live with that whole lot of emotional load!!

    and yes, you are absolutely HURTS and you want them BACK.. because perhaps you LOVE them.

    ever wondered why your fight with some stranger may not hurt you that much ? You have no “connection issue” there, either then or later !

      Ruchika responded:
      March 18, 2015 at 3:02 PM

      The infamous “unsaid things” that haunt us are roots of a bare half relationship, I think. Hence, that is something I definitely do not invest in or agree to deal with.

      Having said that, my fights with strangers hurt me quite as much as those with people I intimately know…. For every person I meet is equally important and ultimately unimportant for me to be me.

      Soz if that’s hard to understand- it can be like that!

    A.Goel said:
    March 9, 2015 at 3:00 PM

    “We all are like islands in the sea, separate on surface, connected in the deep.”

    swamiyesudas said:
    March 17, 2015 at 10:26 PM

    I like this post, Ruchi! But, does trying to ‘Sleep it off’ really work? Can We even ‘Get’ sleep in these circs? (I am recalling my OLD days!) 🙂

      Ruchika responded:
      March 18, 2015 at 2:52 PM

      It works wonders for me! But then of course, every body has its own peculiar, personal sanctum. 🙂
      Also, I have a request- please feel free to call me Ruchika; Ruchi doesn’t quite cut my person on this blog.

        swamiyesudas said:
        March 18, 2015 at 7:20 PM

        No, Problems, Ruchika, my Dear. As You know, We Indians do shorten names. Had gone by that. 🙂

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